Ok as most of you know I am watching two girls. a 3 year old named Katie and a 1 year old (well she turns 1 tomorrow) and I am about to lose my mind. The 3 year keeps taking bites of her food and spitting it back on her plate. She tells her daddy that Scott her mothers bf is her scott which hurts him. She refuses to tell us when she has to go potty. Her mother sends her to us in diapers not pullups real actual diapers. I have tried time out I have tried sending her to her room and taking away all toys. She laughs at me. When Chris (her father) steps in and even goes as far sometimes as to spank her she laughs at him. The other day she threw something at him. Her parents got divorced 2 months after her little sister was born I feel she needs therapy but I dont know just what to do or how much more I can do. I have gone to my wits end with her. Any suggestions would be appreciated trust me I have tried everything. Even with the potty training I give her a treat after she sits on the potty and let her read a book when she sits on it she also picked out a set of my little poney "big girl" panties which I told her she cant wait until she learns how to go potty in the toilet and when I said that she started screaming until she made herself throw up. What can I do. I am begining to feel like a failur.